The Hidden Role You’re Already Playing in Other People’s Lives
In a recent conversation with Eric, the founder of Heylo, a platform built to help people connect in the real world, we reflected on something both often overlooked and profound:
Many people are already doing community building leadeship.
They just don’t know it.
They’re organizing camping trips, coordinating running groups, and inviting friends to casual hot pot and dinners.
And most of the time, they don’t call themselves “leaders.”
But they’re doing something powerful and many of us are hungry for.
Context: Why This Matters
Many among us crave a feeling of belonging.
Belonging doesn't show up through apps, but shared meals, in muddy hiking boots, and in laughter over post-run coffees.
Eric and I talked about the people doing this sacred work, bringing others together in meaningful ways, and how often they don’t realize their impact.
That’s a problem. Because when leaders don’t know they’re leading, they’re less likely to get the support, tools, and growth that can make their efforts sustainable.
Insights: You’re Leading, Even If No One Told You
Eric built Heylo to support community leaders.
He realized, and I’ve also recognized, that many effective community leaders often don’t see themselves as leaders.
They’re people who care enough to create space.
And they underestimate what that space makes possible.
Eric shared that Heylo is now used by over 100,000 people every month. They’ve facilitated over a million real-world check-ins for events including hikes, dinners, cycling events, and support circles.
And many of the people hosting those gatherings still say, “I’m not really a leader.”
But here’s the truth: If people are gathering because of your effort, you are leading.
Even if no one gave you a title.
Even if you think anyone could "just send the calendar invite.”
You’re the one who is creating something new possible.
And very often those new experiences change lives.
The Invisible Impact: What Community Really Creates
You don’t know what’s going to happen when you invite people to a hike or dinner.
You don’t know that someone’s going to share a job lead, offer help with a resume, or offer, “I’ve got a doctor who may help you.”
But this is what really happens over years.
Eric shared how people in these gatherings trade phone numbers, support each other during loss, even fall in love.
No algorithm can design for this.
It starts with someone who says, “Let’s get together.”
Actionable Guidance: What You Can Do Now
If you’re organizing people, even informally, here are a few things to remember:
1. You Are a Leader
You don’t need a title. Your effort creates space. That’s leadership.
2. Your Work Has Value
The emotional, social, and even professional support you’re enabling is real and deep.
3. Don’t Do It Alone
Platforms like Heylo exist to make it easier to organize, communicate with, and grow your group. You don’t need to reinvent wheels.
4. Measure What Matters
How many joined a hike doesn't matter much. Ask: Did someone offer support? Did someone feel seen? Do they want to connect again?
Reflective Conclusion
Have you been gathering people?
Have you been creating spaces where others feel safe, connected, inspired?
If so, you’re doing work that others desperately seek more than you know.
What you're doing may actually lead others to a new life they long for.
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