Community leaders who talk to us about building community often envision building to a membership that will eventually fill an arena. Teams at Salesforce, Twitch, and Crossfit have achieved this.

Many people are afraid to erect boundaries around their community. They worry that boundaries can exclude, humiliate, and alienate others. There’s no question that boundaries can be used that way, and, all too often, are. But that doesn't mean that all boundaries are bad.

This month, I worked with someone who works for an elected official in a major US city.

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If you haven’t seen the film, “Kubu and the 2 Strings”, this post contains a lot of spoilers.

When leaders ask me how to make their community stronger, the first question that jumps to my mind is, “Do your people know that they belong?”

I understand why many leaders I talk to seem to be afraid of creating boundaries. They don't want to emulate the jerks they've met who create elitist, snobby, almost pointless boundaries simply to keep others out.

One of my most magical memories is from when I was about 29 years old and moonlight surfing on Waikiki Beach with my cousin Kelly Chang and dear friend Hugh Khim.

I grew up in Southern California, but most of my extended family lived in Honolulu, Hawaii.

Just this morning, I reached out to many friends to invite them to dinner at our house tomorrow night.

This week Victor Jimenez hosted me for a conversation for entrepreneurs on building cultures of belonging. 

Every community leader that I meet with wants to tell me about the values of his or her organization.

It almost doesn’t matter what you see and think it means.

Recently, I heard this piece produced by StoryCorps. It moved me, in part because it is about feeling at home in America.

For many years now, I've kept up a regular practice of meditation which crosses over with contemplative prayer practice.

Mark Levy asked about creating a meaningful experience around New Years celebration.

In the past two and a half years, I’ve written two books, moved across the country, bought a crack house, and then lived in a construction site for a year while we made it a not-crack house.

Communities help us succeed where we cannot by ourselves. This can look like others showing up when we are at our weakest.

What’s a 3 a.m. friend? My friend Nick taught me the term: it’s those people we can call at the most inconvenient time imaginable to ask for help, and they’ll welcome our call.