In the past two and a half years, I’ve written two books, moved across the country, bought a crack house, and then lived in a construction site for a year while we made it a not-crack house.

Communities help us succeed where we cannot by ourselves. This can look like others showing up when we are at our weakest.

What’s a 3 a.m. friend? My friend Nick taught me the term: it’s those people we can call at the most inconvenient time imaginable to ask for help, and they’ll welcome our call.